Why I Super Hate Dating

Don't quote me, I don't hate guys and I am not neither a Man-hater, and never yet a man-eater.

For some reasons, I got to a point that whenever a guy would start asking me out, I don't think twice of saying "I'll think about it".

Countless reality-based experiences can dig why is to this. It's the best teacher anyway. Here goes the sharing and talking.

*Guys would only asked you out only of two things: Either you're a bombshell-full-of-booby-no-brainy hot girl, or simply-Jessie that hits him off the floor. Either way, always, always be at your own risks. If you have never been asked out for the following reasons, please don't question me at all, for I may never know the answer neither.

*It is very true coming from almost all the guys blobs, that they soooo hating courtship. Be careful on this kind! I dare you! It is very true that they do hate it. Of course, who wants to take full time out off the race where they can just hit up on some gas and move fast to Finish Line? But it says something more about that phrase, more of their attitude really, that never they would say it. Surely, they hate courtships, because they just love flirting with you. Serious knocked-off guy wouldn't mind time and space spending with someone they dearly aim, nevertheless, both parties wants to speed up the communication.

*Talks off too many and show-off too much attitudes. First impressions last, only if they've been watching that commercial tagline too much on their formative years. Guys who asks too much and talks too much whether you or himself is never a good catch at all. There's more of being an engineer than an architect, but surely, labor of love and grace goes to the carpenter who just listens and never complains. Too bad, too rare to find such type. And if, they might be taken and too bad, they're happy being with their homos.

*He asks too much! It's madness if the guy would want to interrogate most of your how', who's, why's, and everything until they dig in more reasons to convince themselves to actually like you without sounding like a talkshow host. Definitely, in this situation, don't be too excited of the fact that they actually like you, coz in reality they just wanna convinced themselves that you're more of an interesting topic on boo-who's-guy's-talk than somebody they would really like to spend much time even without talking. Real men TALKS and seldom ASKS. Believe me, you might be the food in the chain of their ego.

*In most cases, never date a guy who just dragged off on a relationship. Unless, in the first place your proclaiming stupidity out of being respected. You'll never be their answer, and won't ever be the woman he would love after sessions of talks about his distressed painful break-ups. In this case, it's either you're desperate or not just thinking at all.

*This is what interests me most and at the same time pisses me off. Never ever date a guy who will intentionally befriending you because he likes you. This type is worst than the most annoying fact at all. I tell you, after several few weeks off, the amount of attention they're giving you would never be the same as what they first started. Do the analogy, motives=results. So, if they're motive is to LIKE you more than a friend, it will always stay that way, no matter how friendly he could go. Once a guy, tells you that he likes you before actually being friends with you, he is just simply saying, "I am expecting something in return". Hey, I know, guys would deny that. In fact all of them knew that, it's just hard for them to feed the reality out of subconscious reasoning. If somebody, would rebut to this, he might be guilty in charge.

*If a guy asked you out and never would tell you the details of date, think TWICE before saying "yes". This type is like a marriage out of no proposals. I tell you, if in the first date, he just wants to be spontaneous and no plans at all, this tells the exact same thing. He has no plans of getting you in his life. Meaning, I may never be sure, but in most cases, they are interested but never quite enough to be held responsible to anything -- of you in his life, of you being with him. These are the kind of guys that would dare asked you out and leave all the details out of your hand, like "Hey, are you free tomorrow?", you answer, "Where to?", and that would be the end of him planning and would just say "It's up to you". Believe me, the whole relationship would be "It's all up to you, girl!". Be cautious on them for they would mean to be with you as long as they benefit out of the date from you.

Truthfully, dating is necessity on creating your own plot of your love story. But once, it had been started wrong, for sure, you'll end up pounding some tears. Be careful. Never get me wrong. Know the game and never play with them, you won't establish relationship in that way. If you wanna end up happy, find someone who would give that same amount of happiness to you without too much effort.

He's a man, deserved to be loved, but you're a woman worth to be cared for who you are. And no amount of respect could a man give if he starts thinking out of his ego and preserve the relationship he has with the woman he likes.

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~namelessAdobo